Very few things get me as upset as some ignorant man posting on Facebook that we need more ignorant men. The post starts out saying, The masculine America male is a dying breed. We have been told for far to long that violence isn’t the answer. It goes on to say that males now, have to wear skinny jeans and shave their chests. What about smoking cigarettes without a filter, drinking your coffee black and writing your name in the snow with your piss? Aren’t those important too?
What about violence being the answer? I’ll get to the important points of shaving our chests and the skinny jeans later. But back to violence. Sure, sometimes you need to stand up for yourself. Usually, it’s to some other stereotypical male who wants to act tough, or look big in the eyes of his friends. Alcohol is generally involved. But it takes two to fight so I would just shake my head and walk away.
Of course I’m above average in height and weight and it didn’t happen often. Maybe I looked like too much trouble. I know a man bigger than I am, stronger too. He never got into fights either. He said it looked like it might happen once, but he grabbed the guy in the crook of his arm and said: “Really?” the guy changed his mind. Oh, this man was trained as a baker and is a very loving husband and father.
I think the idea of being a man comes from where you live. If you live someplace rural, a man might need to buck bales, chop wood, fix an engine, carry a knife, butcher a hog and shoot a gun. However, there are plenty of women who can do these same things. So, I don’t think these skills necessarily make you a man,they just make you competent for your environment.
The point I’m trying to make is that being a stereotypical male doesn’t make you a man. Here are some things that do. They pertain to women as well. Raise your children. Be a good example, and discipline them when they need it. Be the kind of person who can make a deal on a handshake. Be honest, stick to your word. Do what’s right, even if it isn’t easy. Stand up for the weak and vulnerable. Put your family’s needs before your own. I believe these are more important than knowing how to whittle and spit.
Oh, and as far as shaving your chest and wearing skinny jeans, I’ll leave those decisions entirely up to you.